Clouds hiding a man's face, clouding judgement

Moving past fear

I am 54 and I’m finally showing up! I am ready to share what I know and help anyone who feels like they are not living their life to their full potential.  The most beneficial thing you can do is to do what you are afraid of. Scary I know! That is what is holding you back. When you conquer the thing that scares you the most you will benefit forever. Being afraid of being judged because you’re not good enough is a bull****story that we tell ourselves. 

Think about what you would love to do but can’t because you don’t know how to do it perfectly. Think about what you could share with others that would help them step into their potential. I love to hear how people find a way to forgive the fact that it’s not perfect, but they did it anyhow. This is life! If we stay back in the shadows because we are scared, or we are too old, or it isn’t perfect, or fear of judgement or we compare ourselves to others, then you will not live a happy life. Who wants to regret this one chance we have? That is a story we tell ourselves. I’m changing my story one chapter at a time. 

We go around making excuses for why we can’t make a change in our lives. Maybe you are perfectly happy with your life? If so, that is awesome! That is what it’s about, being happy, but if there is an inkling of wanting something different, something that would make you stand out, something that may help others find happiness. Don’t stuff it down. You may find some creativity inside that you didn’t know was there. We all have a gift to share. I’m finding mine is being honest and helping people find self-love and forgiveness. Give yourself permission to do something different.  I’ve been waiting my whole life to do this. I didn’t know how good it would feel to help other people feel better. I believe everyone does things at the right time in their life. This is my time. You will know if it is your time because you won’t be able to not do this work. 

To have conversations with people that I have worked with and hear that they are now more free and able and take their feelings into consideration instead of putting everyone else first. Having a better relationship with their spouse because they are sharing their feelings instead of stuffing them down and resenting their partner. 

 We are important, we do matter, we are the only one that can help ourselves become who we are meant to be. To look in the mirror and see yourself for the first time and smile back at the reflection rather than cringe. This is what I’m hearing from people, and this makes me happy. I would not be doing the work I was put here to do if I kept it to myself. Someone may need my service. I have value! You have value! It feels good to say that! 

Go back to when you were a child and all the dreams you had before you were conditioned to believe that everything is too hard, and YOU can’t do it. Think back how easy it all seemed when you were a kid. When I was a little girl all I wanted to do was be happy and be loved. As an adult I want the same thing. When you realize you’re the one who is responsible for your happiness, that is the magic button. For some reason I thought happiness just wasn’t for me. I wasn’t good enough to have what everyone else had. I wasn’t good enough to join in. I wasn’t good enough because the people around me wanted me to believe that. I found out it wasn’t that I wasn’t good enough. It was that the people in my life as a child were holding me back with their belief systems. 

It is not about you!!! Think about that. When someone says hurtful things to you, it has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with them. This is changing my life. I think this is the key to self-love and forgives. Always taking the mean words and actions to heart and believing they were about me. Finding out that those words, (for some reason mean words stick like glue and compliments float away so easily) were not about me, has recently changed my life. It is so much easier to see this from a neutral position. Stepping back and looking at the situation without your feelings involved, you just see the hurt emanating from the giver of the insult. I don’t know why it has taken me so long to realize this but now that I have, I can move past so much. I invite you to do the same. You may see things so much clearer and be able to find the love and forgiveness inside of you too. 

Fear has held me back for a lifetime. Now I know I add value and I am living my life with love in my heart and forgiveness. It really is true “you have nothing to fear but fear itself”. 

Move past whatever you are afraid of by stepping right into it.  Hypnosis may help you find the you that you have been hiding.  Move past the fear of feeling your feelings and start letting your light shine. You won’t regret it!